On Windows the install folder says xampplite vs just xampp, isn’t xampp better?

No. To better simulate what modern hosting providers use with Linux, we customized DesktopServer’s implementation of XAMPP starting with a lean and optimized configuration. We then removed and added functionality to make up for XAMPP’s short comings. The ‘lite’ is a misnomer on Windows and actually contains a full featured web and database server above and beyond regular XAMPP.